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New Year’s Wish 2016: Be Be Be, What Should I Be?

There’s only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.

– Aldous Huxley

I was tapping away on my keyboard when Stella, my youngest, approached: “What are you doing?”

“I’m writing. I’m almost done. What should I title what I’m writing?”

As a Kindergartener would, she naturally asked: “What’s a title?”

I responded: “It’s a name for something that you write.”

Her immediate reaction, so random, but so … well, let’s go with it: “Oh, I’m a fairy man and I like eating ketchup.”

Her response was off the cuff and nonsensical, but in it is what I want more of this year.


Be fun.

I read A Human Life in Years a few days ago and cannot stop thinking about time, and the time I have here.

If you haven’t read it, I do say it’s worth your time.

The post puts into perspective one human life – a long life at that, 90 years! The writing got me thinking about how I want to spend my time in this lifetime.

So in 2106, I’d like to continue to prioritize what matters to me.

  • Be loving.
  • Be kind.
  • Be fit.
  • Be fun.
  • Be quiet.
  • Be purposeful.
  • Be connected.
  • Be a friend.
  • Be flexible.
  • Be helpful.
  • Be thankful.
  • Be honest.
  • Be yourself.
  • Be respectful.
  • Be slow to anger.

As I write this, I wonder am thinking am I once again setting myself up for perfectionism and unnecessary self-inflicted pressure?It is too much? 

Or is this simply a guideline to turn to as life pops up – sometimes remembering one, sometimes several?

I’m not all of these things at once, and yet I have all of those qualities in me.

How do you know how to be? … in this one moment … in this space and time …

For example, when I’m three cars deep in a seemingly unmoving line at the bank and feeling frustrated that it’s taking so long, how do I want to be?  Be slow to anger. Be purposeful. Perhaps, be fun.

Being is on a spectrum, certainly, yet it helps me to think of being in opposites.

When I considered the other end of that being spectrum, it helped me to set my being priorities.

That’s to say, I’d rather not:

  • Be hateful.
  • Be mean.
  • Be lazy.
  • Be a buzz kill.
  • Be loud.
  • Be purposeless.
  • Be disconnected.
  • Be an enemy.
  • Be rigid.
  • Be unhelpful.
  • Be thankless.
  • Be a liar.
  • Be someone else.
  • Be disrespectful.
  • Be quick to temper.

Knowing how I don’t want to be, quickly put into check the ways of being that I’m after in this lifetime.

Yes, sometimes I am quick to temper. Sometimes I’m rigid and a bit of a buzz kill. But none of those are my aim.

It’s not how I want to be. 

This is why it’s useful for me to have a list of how I want to be.

Be this and be that.

Just be.

Yes and yes!

But how do you want to be? 

Cheers to a 2016 full of all you want to be and more.



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